WHY CONSENT IS IMPORTANT?

Before highlighting why consent is important, it is important to know what is consent?

Many people still struggle to understand it. When people are sexually together, they have to agree with what's happening. This is called giving consent. It can be defined as an agreement to do something which involves both the partners together and with their permission. 



When we talk about sex, it’s important for everyone involved to give/receive enthusiastic consent. Enthusiastic consent means everyone is into what’s happening and shows they’re ready through words and actions. Establishing enthusiastic consent before and throughout sexual activity means everyone is on the same page and having fun together. Remember, if consent is not given by everyone involved, it’s sexual violence.

So how do I know if it’s Consensual Sex?

During the sexual activity if everyone present, must agree willingly to everything that’s happening as you go. It’s important to remember things like silence or a nod are not enough to establish consent.

It is not consensual if a person:

  • Says out loud or indicates with their body language, “no”

  • Changes their mind from a “yes” to a “no” with their words/actions

  • Says “yes” to one thing but “no” to another

  • Is impaired by alcohol or drugs

  • Is unconscious or sleeping

  • Is intimidated, pressured, threatened, or coerced

  • Is under the age of 16 or does not fit the “close in age” rule

  • Is in a position of trust or authority (e.g. a teacher, coach, employer, etc.) with a young person under the age of 18

  • Seems unsure (e.g. looks nervous, pulls away, etc.)

Keep in mind that:

  • Saying “yes” to one thing doesn’t imply “yes” to something else

  • If you move on to something else, each person needs to consent again

  • Pressuring someone to change their mind is not consent

 

Now, we come on Why is consent so important?

Without consent, sexual activity is Sexual Violence. Sexual violence can be:

  • Sexual Assault is any unwanted sexual act that can be done by one person to another.
  • Sexual Harassment is any unwanted physical or verbal conduct of a sexual nature. 

How do I know if it’s sexual violence?

  • If a person doesn’t ask and obtain clear permission before you attempt to have sex

  • If a person takes a picture of a classmate who passed out with their shirt lifted up

  • If your coach insists you give them a massage after the other players leave the locker room

  • If your partner tells you to touch them or they’ll break up with you

No one has the right to touch you without your permission. If you’ve been impacted by sexual violence, there are people and places available to support you. 


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